DEAR HARRIETTE: An industry colleague passed away about a year ago. I expressed my sorrow at the time, and that was that. Now, though, I am beginning to feel real sadness about this man's death. While we were not close, he had an impact on my life. Little things have been happening recently that have brought him to mind. I wonder if I didn't allow myself to truly think about this man at the time of his death. How can I deal with my grief? It feels real. -- Delayed Grief
DEAR DELAYED GRIEF: Feelings of grief emerge in their own time. What surprises many is that waves of grief can surprise you months and years after the loss. You are not unusual, nor should you feel uncomfortable that this is happening to you.
Since you are not finding other colleagues who will discuss this man's passing, you can do other things to deal with your grief. You can write about him and what he meant to you. Write a journal entry that you can refine and refer to whenever you feel compelled to do so. If you use social media, you can share your sentiments in that space. If sadness seems to be overwhelming you, consider seeing a grief counselor who can support you as you deal with the emotions that are emerging. You do not have to be alone as you go through this moment.
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DEAR HARRIETTE: I have been using a retouching app on social media that cleans up pictures of me very nicely. With what is basically the wave of a wand, I am able to smooth out my skin and give myself a refreshed look. Whenever I post pictures where I have used the app, I get a lot of compliments. I'm beginning to feel guilty. Should I tell people that my photos are retouched? Am I lying to them by posting these pictures of myself with a few enhancements? -- Retouched
DEAR RETOUCHED: You don't owe anyone an explanation of your photos. Retouching has been around for generations. It is a service that professional labs traditionally offered when professional photos were being finished. What's new is that there are now apps for those fixes that anyone can use. Makeup application, effective lighting and retouching are all techniques that people use to enhance images. You have every right to do that. In fact, you have the right to manipulate your own image however you choose.
What you want to be careful with is presenting images of yourself that are too far from reality. That's when it can become awkward. If you show up somewhere online or in person with no visual filter, how different will you look from your true self?
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