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A 29-year-old female employee has found herself in hot water at work over a comment made to another employee. User u/wolfeye1985 has asked the r/AmItheA****** subreddit if she is an a****** "for using a joke about sexuality to imply my co-workers 'boundary' with her boyfriend is stupid?"

She updated the post to reveal that she has been called in for an HR meeting.

A 2021 study by engagement platform Ten Spot found that 70 percent of all workers and 86 percent of Gen-Z say they have experienced bullying or prejudice at work.

The original poster (OP), who describes herself as bisexual and "femme and straight," explains that she has only recently got to know her fellow employees because of restrictions caused by the COVID-19 pandemic. She explains how a co-worker was talking about a 'girls trip' she was planning, to which the OP replied by talking about her plans to go away with a male friend.

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"She immediately raised her eyebrows and said, 'wow that's wild that your boyfriend would let you go on a trip alone with another guy,'" the OP wrote. "The colleague then revealed that she and her boyfriend don't allow each other to be friends with the opposite sex, and it means 'they have a deeper level of trust.'"

The OP wrote that she responded by saying: "'Huh I wouldn't understand—that would be tough for my girlfriend and I since we are bisexual. I guess we wouldn't be able to have any friends at all,' I said it in a teasing tone and laughed."

The OP describes how her colleague then "started to look more angry than embarrassed" and said, "to be honest, I don't really think the workplace is somewhere to be discussing sexuality at all."

The OP explains that she feels conflicted about the disagreement.

"On the one hand, I don't think I'm the a****** at all, and that it's her fault for assuming my sexuality in the first place and that she was telling me about her relationship which means it was perfectly acceptable for me to talk about mine.

"On the other hand, my girlfriend said I was out of line to make that joke and I clearly embarrassed her and she was just being defensive—as anyone would if they felt their relationship was attacked."

Newsweek spoke about the awkward interaction with Amanda Rue, consent expert and founder of The Shift Work Shop, a human resource consultancy offering sexual harassment prevention and anti-sexist training.

"As we are rebuilding our relationships with in-person workplaces it's vital that we remember our best practices for connecting with co-workers in the office," she says. "We know friendship can strengthen employee morale, but it's important to remember that we can easily cross lines of comfortability in an attempt to form these relationships.

"For the most part, conversations around private relationships, including sharing judgments around other's relationships should be kept out of the office. We are there to focus on the work at hand and can find other shared interests and conversation points that exclude our personal approach to sex and relationships.

"It's important to note that sexual harassment, including hostile workplace, is based on the complainants perspective and you may not know what could make somebody feel uncomfortable regarding [their] private lives. It's best to have consent to engage in this conversation, first and foremost, to ensure all parties are comfortable regarding the conversation, but best case is to change the topic and refrain from sexualized conversations in the workplace."

Reddit users backed the OP.

NidorinoBeano said: "She already disclosed her sexuality to you by talking about her BF and you're right, her boundary is stupid, it's not a deeper level of trust it's a lack of trust they have."

User Revolutionary-Heat10 wrote: "She was the first one to judge your relationship by saying that it was wild that your bf would let you go on a trip with another man. So she can judge but you cannot?"

Right_unreasonable commented: "'I trust you so much that you can never be alone with a woman. Except your mother. Because I TRUST you'—OP's co-worker."

Newsweek has reached out to u/wolfeye1985 for comment.

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A Reddit user has been voted "not the a**hole" "for telling a colleague their disability is not a free pass to be an a****** and getting them suspended."

User niffedofficeworker describes themselves as a 29-year-old male who has recently started "a new position at the beginning of November with a decent sized law firm in my city." They explain that despite enjoying their job, they began hearing "horror stories around a member of the office we will call 'J.' I've heard that the last two people that took this position were basically bullied out of the post by J and that anybody who makes any complaints to HR basically get told to put up and shut up for two reasons."

A study from March 2022 conducted by Quality Logo Products found that 90 percent of American employees report having a co-worker that annoys them. Fifty-seven percent of workers say they have considered quitting their job because of a co-worker, and 55 percent report that even while working remotely, co-workers are still annoying them.

The Reddit user explained: "Firstly J, despite not being the most popular person in the office, is very good at what she does to the point the company sees her as invaluable and secondly, J is a wheelchair user and is apparently very quick to throw the discrimination card around as soon as something doesn't go her way. Another key point to this tale is that I use a stoma bag and have done since I was a baby."

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They go on to describe their first interaction with J when they used the disabled bathroom to empty their stoma bag.

They wrote: "I started hearing a loud banging on the door. I said one moment and opened the door to a lady in a wheelchair, the infamous J. I was berated for about five minutes things such as 'why is a healthy young man using a disabled bathroom I should be ashamed, etc' drawing the attention of everyone in the nearby vicinity before she even let me speak. I eventually got a word in, reminded her that not all disabilities are blatantly obvious and lifted my shirt up to show her my bag. She went bright red and I got on with my day."

The next day, the user reported that there was a sign on the bathroom saying "wheelchair users only." After commenting to another member of staff, "have you seen J's latest stunt," they then received an email from HR and a verbal warning.

The Reddit user then describes how they lost their cool with J and told her "that the only reason she is still in a job is because of how long she had been with the business and that she isn't going to bully me out of my position like she had my two predecessors."

J was then suspended, according to the user, for "gross misconduct" and their verbal warning was "expunged."

"Whilst nobody is openly celebrating J's departure as would be a bit classless there certainly seems to be a better atmosphere around the office so I guess that's a positive," the user said.

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Newsweek spoke to Jared Pope, a HR law specialist and founder of Work Shield, about the controversial post, he said: "Situations like these, including any Title VII incident (a section of the Civil Rights Act which bans employment discrimination on the basis of race, color, national origin, sex including pregnancy, and religion) that occurs in the workplace, can be sticky-drama situations that have to be handled with care, expertise and, most importantly, ensuring everyone has a voice to be truly heard.

"Without understanding the proverbial 'other side of the coin,' one thing can be stated clearly: incidents related to discrimination and harassment, as well as any workplace misconduct, is best handled by a third-party to ensure the removal of any bias, whether conscious or not, as well as maintaining an objective and concrete framework in which these investigations are handled. To handle otherwise allows for processes to be overlooked, skipped, side tracked or disregarded which in turn allows voices to not be truly heard and decisions to be made on limited understanding."

On Reddit, other users supported the original poster.

User melkesjokolade89 said: "Ambulatory wheelchair user here and 100 percent agree. I also have invisible disabilities and had to use the accessible toilet before I got my wheelchair. Never assume all disability is visible, most isn't."

User Blurgas wrote: "You'd think someone who works at a law firm, disabled or not, would know better than to screw with ADA compliance."

User IntoTheSinBinForYou commented: "NTA Not all heroes wear capes. My disabilities are not external and someone like J would never be able to understand."

Newsweek has reached out to user niffedofficeworker for comment.

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Tis the season for entitlement. 

A mom is causing a stir by asking her childless colleague to withdraw her time-off request for Christmas — believing that having a child makes her more qualified for the vacation day. The request struck a chord with the internet. 

“Ok I feel terrible about this,” the mom writes in a thread on UK-based parenting site Mumsnet, attempting to justify her selfish ask, prefacing that she and the colleague get along well, but since they both requested the day off, her manager is leaving it to them to sort out who is off the clock. 

“I have asked her to withdraw her request as she and her husband who have no kids normally go to her husband’s parents on Christmas Day, but they also go every week so it’s not like they never see them,” the woman writes, attempting to give grounds for why she believes her colleague should work and she should not.

“I do feel bad asking her to do this but if she won’t then I’m going to have no choice but to leave my job,” the woman writes.

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“I, on the other hand, have a four-year-old Autistic [sic] son,” the woman writes, continuing to air out details of her personal life to an audience of strangers, noting that her son’s nursery school will be closed.

Then, she continues to speculate about her colleague’s personal life, estimating that since their work shift starts between 7 and 10 in the morning “she and her husband could still be at his parents for lunchtime whereas because I am a single mama and the nurseries are closed I have no one to watch my son.” 

Cue the world’s tiniest violin. 

“Yes, I could pay someone but it would be extremely expensive,” the woman writes, excusing a solution to her problem. 

“I do feel bad asking her to do this but if she won’t then I’m going to have no choice but to leave my job,” she continues. 

Few could sympathize with the out-of-touch mom with some calling her request “unreasonable.” 

“Oh yeah I forgot! If you don’t have children then Christmas and family means absolutely nothing to you!” one commenter snarked. 

Another had a more practical approach. 

“Whoever asked first should get it. You having a child doesn’t make you more entitled to the day off,” they said.

Others were more middle-ground. 

“I think it is okay to ask because you are in a very difficult situation, however it is not ok to minimize her Christmas just because she has no child,” another commenter politely pointed out. 

Another summed up a frank reminder that entitlement around the holidays –and in general – will get you on the naughty list.

“I don’t believe having kids should entitle you to preferential time off at Christmas. It’s an important time for many people. If you get on well with her you could ask given the other difficulties you would have, but if you’ve previously had xmases off and she hasn’t, then it’s probably her turn.”

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If traders in JPMorgan's fixed income sales and trading business receive poor bonuses this year, they will have someone to blame: a pesky former colleague who was their manager's favourite and who defected to credit hedge fund GoldenTree Asset Management  to work for Steve Tanabaum in late October.

Bloomberg reports that that Gianfranco Canepa, JPMorgan’s former co-head of high yield trader for EMEA oversaw trades that have generated a large loss since his exit. The trades, which were seemingly making a profit before Canepa left, have reportedly since swung to a loss of nearly $70m.

Canepa has not commented for this article, and it’s possible he may have a different version of events. Bloomberg reports that it attempted to contact him and that he didn’t respond. Bloomberg claims that his team amassed a €500 million ($526 million) position on Casino Guichard-Perrachon SA, the French grocer, and made bets on Metalcorp, a subsidiary of Monaco Resources Group SAM. Both turned sour. His Casino position included credit default (CDS) swaps, which generated losses as the perceived probability of Casino defaulting fell and the CDS declined in value. Bloomberg reports that the Metalcorp position generated a further loss of up to $20m when the company failed to repay €70m of debt on time to investors in October.

It's not clear whether it was Canepa himself who placed the bets that made the alleged loss, or the team who worked for him. In either case, it seems the trades were profitable before Canepa exited, implying that the team could have acted to mitigate the situation.

Sources inform us that Canepa was one of the favourites of Sanay Jhamna, global head of credit trading at JPMorgan. In 2021, Jhamna is understood to have promoted Canepa ahead of other individuals in the team, not suspecting that he would leave only a year later.

Canepa isn’t the only recent exit from JPMorgan’s high yield business. Sebastian Pearce, the former co-head of European high yield credit trading left for Deutsche Bank after nearly 15 years at JPM in July 2021. Alun Shepherd, the former co-head of EMEA high yield, crossover and distressed debt trading, left for BNP Paribas around the same time. JPMorgan has also suffered numerous exits from veterans across its high yield and credit sales and trading business in the past few years, including Guy America, the global head of credit trading, who’s exit was announced in August 2022. Bhavit Sawjani, the bank’s top high yield credit trader, also left JPMorgan after 16 years in 2020 and is now at hedge fund GoldenTree Asset Management.

Following the recent loss, it’s possible that JPMorgan may want to add some new experienced traders to its bench.

Separately, as knives are sharpened for a probable bloodletting in the analyst and associate classes in the new year, some juniors in London may find themselves at particular risk.

Financial News reports that 30% of a sample of 344 analysts at banks and boutiques in London swapped jobs last year, up from 18% in 2020. Many went to private equity. Some went to rival banks. Private equity jobs are starting to look less secure than usual, but it’s the juniors in new banking jobs who might be most exposed. Last in first out is a cliché for a reason.

Meanwhile..

I enjoyed working at Elon Musk’s Twitter and sleeping on a sofa in the office on Saturday night, until I was in a meeting in which my laptop screen suddenly turned grey and messaged flashed up saying my password had been changed. I was fired. My boss was fired. So was his boss. And his boss’s boss. And their boss. (Economist)

It’s ok, Credit Suisse can call itself First Boston. (Financial Times)

ECB staff are not happy with their 4% pay rise. “With inflation in Germany and the euro area likely around 8.5% this year, it means a substantial loss in purchasing power.” (Bloomberg)  

HSBC hired Robin Brown as a managing director within its mid-market M&A team. He joins from family-owned investment bank, Stephens, where he ran the technology team. (Financial News)

Mark Ashton-Rigby, the COO of Barclays investment bank who joined from JPMorgan’s corporate and investment bank, is leaving. He’s being replaced by Vim Maru who came from Lloyds and is far more of a retail banking type. (Bloomberg)

Credit Suisse, which is increasingly funded by Saudi Arabia, is locked in a $440m legal dispute with SoftBank, which is also funded by Saudi Arabia. (Bloomberg)  

The former CEO of UBS’s APAC investment bank bought himself an £11m manner with his £45m exit payment. After an acrimonious divorce, he’s now being compelled to give some of that to his ex-wife. (Daily Mail)

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Fire at a northwest Atlanta rooming house forced residents from their beds Thursday morning and sent a firefighter to a hospital.

Shawn Manns, a battalion chief for the Atlanta fire department, said his crew member sustained a knee injury when he stepped through a hole in the fire-compromised floor. The firefighter was conducting a primary search of the three-story home after it was reported residents might be trapped inside.

“His foot went through the hole and his crew members were able to grab him, pull him up and get him outside,” Manns told The Atlanta Journal-Constitution. The firefighter was being treated at Grady Memorial Hospital.

Crews were called to the home at the corner of Burbank and Martin Luther King Jr. drives shortly after 3 a.m. and arrived within five minutes, Manns said. They quickly determined the fire was coming from the basement level and went inside to knock down the flames and search for occupants.

Five people were renting rooms, but only three were home when the fire broke out, according to resident Cecil Garrett. He and his roommates were able to get outside to safety before the fire crews arrived.

“By the time I decided to head out, my house was so full of smoke I just covered my mouth and took my time to crawl out,” Garrett said.

All five residents were staying on the top floor, away from the source of the fire in the basement, but Garrett said the entire building was gutted and he likely lost everything. He believed the home’s owner was doing renovations on the bottom level to prepare for more renters.

The cause of the fire remains under investigation.

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